A couple of days ago a friend of mine introduced me to the song written and performed by Chris Medina. You might have heard it before, “What are words”. The story behind the song is that only two months before Chris’ and his girlfriend’s wedding, she was in a car accident, and currently suffers from a braininjury. He wrote this song to her to prove that the vows he was preparing, but didn’t tell her (yet), was for real, and that the words “in sickness and in health” are words he meant, until death will do them apart.
What are words
If you really don’t mean them
When you say them
What are words
If they’re only for good times
Then they don’t
When it’s love
Yeah, you say them out loud
Those words, They never go away
They live on, even when we’re gone
I can’t help to play the song over and over again. Such a simple song, yet it touches me. For the very reason that this man didn’t say the words out loud in church on his weddingday, but this was what he felt in his heart towards his beloved chosen one. I believe that (especially in my corner of the world) people tend to forget what they once promised their loved one, way too easy. Have people given up on real, true love? Is there such a feeling anymore? Where did romance go? Is it only what you can get after paying $20 for watching a 2h long (short) romantic typical Hollywood movie? Where two people randomly fall in love, then something happens (he is already (or soon to be) married, she’s about to move to the other side of the world, or she is deathly ill) but in the end they find a way to be together (or she actually dies).
Is romance, love and passion nowadays only commercial? Is it something we fake for a while, when we need it the most, when we need someone to appreciate us, listen to us and hold us tight when we are scared (to be alone). Is it possible to find a love that is so strong that it will help two people to live together through difficult times, sickness, accidents and grey days?
Are you in love now?
People sign up on datingsites to find their “true love”, paying loads of money to get a datingcoach in order to find someone compatible to spend the rest of their life with (okey, so maybe just SOME time… not a lifetime. I mean, i.e. seven months is a long time, right?) Is it possible that there is one, and only one, person in this world that you are meant to be with?
First of all, we have to decide whether or not we believe in destiny. Are certain things already destined to be or not to be, regardless if you like it or not?
And then we can decide if we believe in “one perfectly fitted person just for you”.
I had an interesting discussion about “the one” with a another friend of mine the other week. He said that there is not just one person that could be “the one” for you. It is about finding someone that you are 1) attracted to, 2) has the same or very similar values in life as you have and 3) (maybe one of the most important points) timing.
Once these all are checked you are ready to go. Now, you can begin to build a stabil and forever-and-ever-lasting relationship. With all the effort, time and emotions you both bring into your relationship, this will make the two of you become “the one” for eachother. And the whole idea that there already is someone that is by nature “the one” for you is simply rubbish. For the record, we’ve all heard/read/experienced the “growing apart” situation, so… no, even if there is someone being “the one” for you, it does not mean that he or she will be “the one” for you for the rest of your life. For a relationship to last, you (both of you, or however many you all choose to be?) need to work on it, make active efforts.
So, I am about to finish my wanna-be-Dr-Phil-session for this time, and heading out on the balcony. It’s a warm summerevening in my part of the world, and want to enjoy it before the winter comes back. And it always does. Way to soon. Crap.
Wrapping this post up, I hope that it got you thinking as it made me think, it even gave me hope that everyone will find love, or atleast get the opportunity, more than once in life, to find love. And if you play your cards right, it will be forever lasting, just as in the Hollywood movie. Lasting longer than 2h. So, store up with popcorn.